Lies, Secrets & Everything Else

Hello All...

I have come to value honesty as its crucial for any relationship, with a teaspoon of digression of course. When recently I've found an ex on that wonderful blue and white social network we all love, old feelings seamed to spark instantly. After an entertaining exchange of conversation for two days, he "disappeared".

(See Frank character in For the Colored Girls)

The truth is after years of third degree burns from touching the stove, emotionally, I've never seemed to learn that lesson. Red flags are just as crucial as stop signs, red lights, break lights, Exit signs.... you get the drift.

I think we often attempt to see the best of a person, or at least I do, bypassing the red flags with an optimism that people can change. But the truth is, they usually don't and if the reasons for a failed relationship exist simply because of someone's character, they will not be different in any x amount of years later.

So this guy who is clearly "in a relationship" quickly tells me how much I've been missed, how he's attempted to call (I changed my number)and all of his not so wholesome intentions with me. I'm assuming the disappearing act extended from the publicly displayed girlfriend inhaling his facebook wall daily, I'm sure some text message snooping that clearly indicated his not-so-faithful intentions too.

From my own research they hadn't been dating long and considering the history I shared with this one person, my insight on the situation was fog resistant. I firmly believe ladies, if he will cheat with you don't hesitate to think he will not cheat on you. Secondly, where was the honesty in the situation? Time and time again, I've watched this fool scurry away from me to avoid any conversation when he's forced to face his conscious. Instead of a simple, "Something came up this weekend", or a "I don't have the money for the apartment deposit," phone calls and text messages went unanswered. It was within the silence that I retracted my hand feeling the warmth of the stove prior to scorching an already greased burn; *Fab voice* Niiiiiiceee.

So my answer is this: In any situation its best to be honest and sincere. If not with the other person at least with yourself. Keeping things in a realistic perspective can avoid those third degree burns when you knew the stove was hot all along.

Being Me

So in my world there's poetry and there's music, and lots of moons that orbit the sun. I believe way too many people are involved in what others think. From the clothes they wear, music they listen too and every action or thought that is carefully planned because others are watching. We all have a purpose in life and it is our job to figure out what that purpose is. If we were meant to be carbon-copied clones, we'd be two dimensional. LOL...

Wouldn't it be a lot easier to live in a world where only your thoughts and opinions are heard? When the silent voices of eyes from strangers aren't raping their way through your mind. It doesn't make you closed minded, just pro-you.

Welcome to my world =D